Looking for a spanking?
I get a lot of questions from people asking for advice for finding a spanking partner and no matter how I answer them, I always wish I could help them more. I remember what it was like to be out there looking for that special spanko who would be “the one.” I was very lucky to have stumbled across Dan online.
I’ve told this story before so I’ll try to hit the highlights. We belonged to the same forum and we hit it off from the start. We had fun on the forum and soon we began emailing each other. After that we moved on to instant messaging and then marathon phone calls. It wasn’t long before we had to meet and then in no time, I moved in with him. It took some months for all of this to happen, but it did all work out and we’re still crazy in love.
Since I had such great luck finding my perfect match online, I figured it was possible for others. The one thing I’ve heard over and over is that it’s harder than I thought. The big vanilla matchmaking sites don’t help the kinky find each other, the online spanking community networking doesn’t work for everyone, and not all spankos live in areas where there are spanko events.
I finally decided to try my hand at matchmaking, with a lot of help from some handy software, of course. I set up a site, SpankFinder.com and just opened the doors over the weekend. SpankFinder is free of charge and open to adults who are searching for a spanking partner. The site also has it’s own chat room and forum that all members can use as part of their membership.
I’m prepared for this project to take some time and lots of encouragement from me, but I think it’ll be worth it. Please go over and take a look around and if you’re interested in using SpankFinder, register, set up your profile, and jump right in. Don’t be shy!
If anyone has any questions, just email me at bethie@spankingbethie.com. Thanks!
Bethie, my dear, the site is very nice. I especially like the ability to hide your online status. However, there is one very key thing missing on this site: The ability to designate whether one is a Top looking for a bottom or a bottom looking for a Top.
I realize that may not be important to some, but in a world of a Lady Dominant it is rather vital. Otherwise there are quite a bit of mistaken assumptions made and I spend far too much time telling nice or sometimes not so nice people they have a wrong number, if you catch my drift.
Unless you intend for this site to be strictly M/F?
Comment by Good for You — 4/28/2008 @ 1:27 pm
Good for You, thank you for your feedback! I understand exactly the type of assumptions you’re talking about so I’m still working to make sure we cover all the bases.
The site isn’t only for M/F relationships, I’m hoping it will suit as many different combinations as possible. When you fill out your profile, there’s a section for your spanking preferences where you can select the identity that suits you best, what type of partner you’re searching for, and which gender you’d prefer, if any.
I’m still working out the bugs and feedback like yours is much appreciated. Thank you!
Bethie
Comment by Bethie — 4/28/2008 @ 5:54 pm
Bethie,
That’s fantastic! I am asked variations of that question all the time. Now I know where to send people.
Thank you for this wonderful service. This is a whole new spin on the concept of global warming!
Hugs,
Bonnie
Comment by Bonnie — 5/4/2008 @ 4:45 pm
LOL Bonnie, I’m all for that kind of global warming! Thanks for being so supportive! I’m thrilled that we were able to set the site up and I have high hopes for it. I think it’s going to be fun and get some of those unspanked bottoms taken care of!
Comment by Bethie — 5/4/2008 @ 6:42 pm
Wow… this is great! We had this idea too, but found we had no where near enough skill to make it happen. It looks great!
:)
Todd & Suzy
Comment by A.S.S. — 5/7/2008 @ 2:25 pm
Todd & Suzy, thank you! We found software we could work with and between us and our tech support, we’ve made it work. I’ve got high hopes for this service!
I owe you two an email btw. I’ve been so crazy busy lately I’m way behind with everything.
Comment by Bethie — 5/7/2008 @ 7:13 pm
Hi Bethie
This looks fantastic, what an excellent way to help our fellow spankers/spankees. Do you mind if I create a link on my site and do a post to promote it? Will wait for your ok before doing so.
Well done!!
Hugs
Mina
Comment by Mina — 5/10/2008 @ 7:53 pm
Mina, thank you! I definitely don’t mind a link and a post from you! In fact, I’d really appreciate it. It’s a free service which we’re happy to be able to provide, so we appreciate any help we can get to spread the word. The more spankos we can gather together, the more likely it is for people to find matches. The more the merrier!
Comment by Bethie — 5/10/2008 @ 8:16 pm
Excellent I will organise it over the next day or so. I get a reasonable amount of traffic so every bit should help.
Cheers and again thanks for putting your own time and effort into this.
Hugs
Mina
Comment by Mina — 5/10/2008 @ 9:06 pm
Great idea, bethie! I signed up today and it will be fun to see if I get any response from anyone on that site. It looks like it will be a really big site with lots of people joining.
I’ll be sure to do a post soon and let people know about it!
BIG HUGS
padme amidala
Comment by padme amidala — 6/2/2008 @ 12:14 pm
That’s great, Padme! I’m so glad you’re joining us.
I really appreciate help spreading the word, too. Thank you, hon!
((((HUGS))))
Bethie
Comment by Bethie — 6/2/2008 @ 11:15 pm
Wonderful idea–thank you
I will definitely give it a try!
Dave
Comment by Dave — 6/16/2008 @ 10:45 pm
i am looking for someone to teach me the ins and outs of spanking and domestic discipline. Please point me in the right direction?
Comment by kat — 9/19/2008 @ 6:10 am
Hi Bethie, thanks for the email.
I’m in the process of signing up for spankfinder and am quite excited.
Thanks alot.
hugs, Jay
Comment by Jflame — 1/19/2009 @ 6:03 am